Advice for the shy living in a small town
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问题:我最近一直感觉到我只是不适合任何地方。我的丈夫不知道一个陌生人。他与任何人混在一起。另一方面,我与陌生人困难。我一直害羞,我被告知我陷入了困境。只是因为我很安静,我会得到很多。我有点怨恨社区对我的判断。我住在一个大约2,500人的社区中,所以每个人似乎都认为他们知道每个人以及他们是最重要的。Read more

Resolving issues is an inside job
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问题:I come from a pretty dysfunctional family and it shows. In our home of origin, anger was the most expressed emotion. I grew up an angry young man and I had so many problems. My anger got me into physical fights and lots of other problems. I would admit my anger nearly ruined my life.Read more

Speaking up for yourself may take some practice
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问题:当我感到误解时,似乎有很多次。我不确定,因为我不追求这件事。我静静地坐下来说什么。我很生气,人们似乎不明白我想说的话。我很安静,也许这就是为什么没有人似乎听到我的人。我认为我以一种很容易理解的方式说出来,但也许不是。我感觉就像没有人关心倾听。Read more

A daughter in peril
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问题:I have a challenge that is pretty serious to me. My wife told me that our daughter has said to her that she wishes she was dead. My wife made me promise not to bring it up to our daughter, but I think that is not a good way to handle it. You read about and see on television about kids who kill themselves and that is the end point. There is no going back.Read more

New year, new beginnings
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问题:This is the beginning of a new year and new beginnings. So many times we put a lot of effort into writing down our resolutions and believe me, that does have some merit. However I think the first step in developing the goals for the year requires a fearless inventory of ourselves and how we really need to make modifications in ourselves to be the best we can be. What does that mean anyway; the best me I can be?Read more

Be thankful for family and forgiveness
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This is a seasonal post. Thanksgiving is just around the corner and we have family that we may or may not get along with. We love them, but they may make us a little crazy when we spend too much time with them. This is just a family thing for most of us. However there are families that have an easy time being together, that is also true. Decide who will be at your Thanksgiving get together. Make it easy on yourself. Break it up—you usually don’t have to have everyone in at one time, as t…Read more

Dealing with the public
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问题:This may not seem like a problem to anyone, but I’m very good at hiding my very angry self. I have a job that requires me to be nice to people up front. It is a public job so I see a lot of people on a daily basis. I find that at the end of the day I am fuming. I can’t believe the way people behave.Read more

Maybe it's time to learn to say no
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问题:We are in a town where we have a lot of events, and my family in particular seems to take advantage of our home as their personal bed and breakfast. My husband has begun to complain of my family being here so often. His family really does not have the option of staying because my family seems to call and almost invite themselves. In fact it kind of gets on my nerves as well.Read more

越过消极性
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问题:你如何克服自己的消极情绪?这是一个很长一段时间的问题。事实是,我不会发现我的消极性尽可能多地注意到它。Read more

Do women have more problems?
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问题:看起来我看到的很多问题在你的文章中遇到的是女性。女人们侧重于像我这样的男人似乎忘记的问题吗?在关系中,在一个关系中,我错过了什么样的问题?Read more

关系不起作用
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问题:我最近和朋友一起经历了糟糕的经历。这种关系开始作为工作关系,但变成了友谊。我正在为我的组织/个人助理职位支付。它真的很好,因为这个个人需要帮助,我擅长我所做的事。好吧,我完成了她的工作,我们周期性地聚集在一起吃午饭,当她需要帮助时,我仍然是这项工作的一部分。Read more

伸展真相
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问题:我结婚了,我努力不要挑剔,但我的丈夫伸展了真相。这是一个真正无所谓的小事,但它非常一致。我已经得到了我检查他所说的那一点,因为他大部分时间都有荒谬的行为。他似乎对这种行为似乎非常防守,并且不会承认他正在这样做。Read more

Not any happier
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问题:I have seen a counselor in the past and did feel better when I was seeing her, but my spouse did a lot of complaining about the expense. I work and bring money into the house and it is not like we are impoverished, so I did not see what the problem was.Read more

No voice or opinion
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问题:It could be that other people would not see this as a problem, but I feel like I do not have a voice or an opinion with my husband, because he insists on being right. If I voice an opinion he demeans what I have to say and then acts as if I have a problem and I am taking him too seriously. I don’t get it. I am a very intelligent person and I don’t allow other people to treat me this way.Read more

放开
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问题:我是一个packrat,我知道它,但我很难摆脱东西。我丈夫抱怨我们家里没有更多的空间,他可能是对的。Read more

Avoid the negativity
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问题:I am so tired of the news and all the bad things going on. I wonder how to feel better about myself and the state of the world. When I think of all the things that can go wrong and all the things that have gone wrong, I am just sort of mind boggled. I really do work at trying to remain positive in the midst of what I consider chaos. I think at my work there are so many people who do look for the worst and talk about it often. I am exhausted from trying to help them.Read more

Complaining
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问题:我的丈夫说我所做的一切都在抱怨。我厌倦了听到他这么说,但是开始想知道它是否可能是真的。我是一种完美主义者,他们喜欢有东西和生活。这对我来说不是一个问题,但不是每个人都有同样的心态。Read more

Super critical daughter
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问题:I have a daughter who is coming to visit, and the last time she came she was super critical of me and the way things were. She and her dad have a great relationship, and they do not have challenges that I can see. She is an only daughter, so her father has a favorite daughter. I notice if I say anything she does not like to her father, she corrects me.Read more

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问题:I don’t even know what has caused this problem but my wife and I are not able to get along right now. We have been together for over 20 years, and I did not know she was so unhappy with our relationship. She really has not been a wife who complained all the time. Every now and then she would say something and we would get past it.Read more

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问题:我觉得我只是无法领先。我有三个孩子,丈夫和一份工作。我一直是一个完成的人,但我发现我落后于一切。它并没有帮助我是一个完美主义者,我喜欢符合事情。大多数时候我只是筋疲力尽,令人沮丧,我无法完成完成的事情。洗衣店被撤消,孩子们忙于运动,我的丈夫是一个没有时间帮助任何必须做的事情的农民。Read more

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问题:我知道是一个好父母是我的目标之一,我认为是非常困难的目标之一。我的背景是一个创伤的背景,我想我已经将一些创伤转移到我的孩子身上。如果曾经表现出情感,我的家人很冷,很少。你更有可能骂并屈服于犯错误,从来没有那么知道做好事。我从来不知道在哪里转身,因为你可以获得一个良好的舌头抨击。Read more

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To submit problems contact Juanita Sanchez, psychotherapist, by email at jsanchez1448@sbcglobal.net.